Third culture humans, I see you…
Traveling and exploring has become a part of your operating system, your DNA. Yet you are utterly human who long to settle and grow roots. To know where to settle, you want to know who you are, and to know who you are, you want to know where you belong, to know where you belong, you feel you are too fragmented to belong in one place. In the meanwhile, world is changing, and you gotta pay the bills and do the adult stuff, right?
Some of you may have already begun home dating! You decided to listen to your soul and embark on a journey to find yourself and your home. It feels amazing to take this bold step towards your dreams, and yet it’s a constant battle with the voices of shame for being different. This voice gets the better of you on some days and deep inside you cannot shake away the feeling like an alien on Earth.
Some of you may have accepted and chosen to settle, buy a home, raise children, coupled with success in a career. And yet, deep inside there is unseen parts of you that wants to be expressed. That part of you whispers that they feel like an alien on Earth. Right??!
We don’t know where to go to talk about this because you feel guilty to sound like you’re complaining when you have such a rich exquisite life or even your search for help makes you feel more alone because the “self-help” world too isn’t trained in how to connect with our culturally multi-verse life.
I see you. I hear you. That is why I created Home Dating!
It’s a perspective shift I gave myself that took me from feeling like an alien to feeling at home wherever I am. Whether I’m in a story of “I’m nomading” or “I’m settling here this time” it didn’t matter. I am constantly moving and traveling for work, for family, for fun, for simply being alive!
When I first started Home Dating, I started with a weighted score spreadsheet with all the variables that made me feel at home. They were like “# of sunny days in a year” or “bikability” or “proximity to nature” or “flight costs” I began applying the curious lens of always being on a date wherever I went. This practice has completely shifted the way I live and how I define home!
You are not broken! You feel broken only because you’ve been programmed by global institutional culture with neat check-off boxes of gender roles, styles, work, home, relationships, limited vocabulary to defining who we are!
college degree, get a job, get married, have children, buy a house, save for retirement, live the American dream. sound familiar? they are beautiful human experience, and yet what about our life in between these, or choosing to walk a different path? shaming ourselves for being different is what makes us feel broken and hide. It’s time to show ourselves, that we. are. not. broken. we are whole!
-if Kintsugi could speak
Many of us third culture humans were raised as global institutional culture kids like diplomat kids, missionary kids, military kids, business expat kids, international student, refugees, adoptees, sponsored for our roles, stories, and expectations of some system’s agenda.
Our world gave us a role during our developmental years while our brain developed its “operating system” with programming that we will live with for the rest of our lives.
It’s like an unintentional brain-binding! Whoa~ painful.
We know our life is so much bigger than a role, so much more than a white supremacy patriarchy narrative, don’t we? And yet, unlearning our programs and reprograming to redefine who we are to actually be who we are, does not come with a snap of a finger. It can feel really awkward and lonely and we need a safe space to unpack and be witnessed.
Inside Home Dating, we unpack ourselves while we explore our home and our selves. It’s a community of self-dating.
Home Dating is like a dedicated fitting room you go back to un-learn and re-learn who you are and how your definition of home fits on you!
Experience the shift:
from “ugh, I don’t belong here” to “is this a good enough place for me?”
from “oh gosh, am I committing here? am I leaving soon? one leg in one leg out” to “this is a date, one juicy date that counts!”
from endlessly strolling on social media to strolling around your city like on a treasure hunt!
from “I feel homeless” to “what is home to me?”
from “I feel like an alien” to “the alien in me belongs!”
This is how it works:
1) Join today! $88 monthly subscription. Anytime cancellable.
2) Begin immediately with monthly e-game course in your inbox. Action-packed, mindset shifts towards belonging with all of who you are.
3) Private facebook group. Share your snapshots and reflections about what you are learning from city dates, what is home to you. We are here to cheer you on, cry with you, dance with you, witness you being you! Messy? Imperfect? Hi human!
4) Weekly live coaching! Bring your belonging questions, stuck feelings as a multi-dimensional being in this world of boxed definitions. Cry, laugh, curse, and have breakthroughs! Not sure what you want coaching on? Come anyways. You will walk away invigorated. First call goes LIVE on May 1 8pm EST. Recordings available if you miss.
Home is not an address.
Home is where I am.
-the Asian Alien
We use cookies to improve your experience and to help us understand how you use our site. Please refer to our cookie notice and privacy statement for more information regarding cookies and other third-party tracking that may be enabled.
Follow me on social media!
© 2023 The Asian Alien by SaEunShine, LLC
